I'm a little puzzled! We all know that relationships come and go. Marriages dissolve and even some friendships don't last forever. Everyone expects their friend, lover, spouse or whatever to be loyal. In a perfect world this would be fine, but reality is anything but perfect. Apparently, especially for MEN! A recent online poll showed that approximately 40% of men seek sexual satisfaction outside of their relationships compared to only 14% of women. WOW! So why is it that women want their boyfriends, husbands, significant others, etc., to be faithful? Is a lifetime of monogamy too heavy a burden on anyone, including WOMEN?
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I don't have an answer. My personal experience can only give some light, so this is MY opinion to a question posed on a public forum. I have cheated and I have been cheated on. When I stepped outside of my relationship with my live in fiance (at the time) I felt it was justified by his lack of attention toward me and him stepping outside of us and getting caught. I tolerated a lot of bull shit, then a man came along that said all the right things, he made me smile and that's the FIRST mistake. Me being vulnerable already, took him up on his offers to please me. It was very satisfying to feel strong hands on my soft body that were not the man I loved. It was very appealing to me, the thrill of "getting caught". I loved every moment we snuck off to get each other extremely hard and wet. I did this with fever as the movie played in my head, ya know, the one where my fiance was fucking my friend aka his brothers girl friend in OUR HOME, yea. This steamy affair I had with a man I didn't love or care for resulted into my man loving me even more because he feared another man stroking "his" pussy. Do I regret cheating, not at all. Did I protect myself, YES! Do I make it a habit, absolutely not! Is it wrong to do....? That depends on you
ReplyDeletePinkCookiz i must say thank you first...very VIVID! lol...next, am I to understand this love affair SIMPLY came about because of your fiance's infidelity and not giving you the attention a woman needs OR would this hot and "steamy" fantastic fantasy affair would have taken place anyway given it was the right person and the right time??
ReplyDeleteThank you. No, it would not have happened. His infidelity. lack of attention, staying out late and over night, lies etc. triggered me to let my wall down.
DeleteIdk... thats a hard one... I feel only u knw if/when u'll be ready to commit and if ur not then be honest about it. Be honest w/urself nd u'll be honest to every1 else...
ReplyDeleteI'm a lesbian that has been in a relationship with a partner that decided before we even got married that she wanted to explore other options. So to see how far she would go with it, I told her "to do what makes her happy". At the time I expected her to be monogamous but she chose not to and since it was something that she wanted to do, we decided to enter into an open marriage. Smh that worked out for a short amount of time because in the end one of us was always unhappy. In current we are the best of friends because I respected her more for not cheating behind my back and discussing with with me before infidelity took place. Her honesty saved our friendship even though our marriage didn't last long. Not all men are cheaters...or want to mess around
ReplyDeleteThere r people of all genders who want MONOGAMY as well as those who DON'T. The best thing would be to ensure that you get with others who are like minded. Unfortunately, men tend to be most dishonest about their desires. They will insist on marrying a "clean & decent" wombn (eg) then sneak out & go have sex with the filthiest of skanky whores...MANY MEN DO THIS...Which actually makes me think that they r MISOGYNISTS in many cases-resentful of & hating wombn & wanting to sully the wombn....just twisted shid....many married men visit shemale hookers on their lunch breaks...they suck dick, get fucked in their ass then pretend to be str8 & go home to their WIVES. NO ONE FORCES THEM TO GET MARRIED. THEY MAKE THOSE CHOICES B/C THEY ARE WEAK ASS PUNKS. Unfortunately, most women have no clue the things some men can & do get up to...I learned plenty from having been a Domina as well as a fone fantasy operator for several yrs. Too many are dishonest/untrustworthy & they lieeeeee
ReplyDeleteCOMMITMENT TAKES maturity. Men tend to think there is a p@#$@ goddess who is going to descend from the sky, parting the clouds with her magical "poo poo" and do something that is going to levitate them and then right before they drop down and hit the ground, her "skills" lifts them right back up........... AIRBORNE! no such woman exists outside of your mind, so why not have that same creativity with YOUR WOMAN (pref. wife) in the bed room. People cheat because they are too afraid to share what they "really like" with the person they are with. Its okay to say "BABY DO THAT RIGHT THERE...TWICE!" Im really interested in penning the "BIBLICAL KARMA SUTRA" look, smell, taste, ..............sound affects. when you are married, the Bible says the bed is UNDEFILED, YES LORD! woo hoo!
ReplyDeleteI can only speak for myself, I believe people can be in a monogamous relationship, but at the same time people will always be attracted to others. I am in a open marriage, and it has been the best thing that I have done in a relationship. I strongly believe in people having sexual freedom. Sex is meant to be enjoyed, however someone chooses. We are only on this earth for a short period of time, so why not enjoy life.
ReplyDeleteI'm in an open relationship as well and I think it's great. The worst part imo of cheating is lying and now I don't do it or have it done 2 me, way better than sneaking around
DeleteI am going out on a limb here... I think the statistics should read 40% of men admitted to seek(ing) sexual satisfaction outside of their relationships compared to only 14% of women (admitting to the same thing).
ReplyDeleteIf they don't admit, doesn't mean they don't do it.
When men cheat it's usually with a woman who knows he is involved or is involved herself. I will admit though probably more men cheat than women, but not by much.
Im with you on this on, i'm sure the numbers are a lot closer. Women just are better at keeping it on the low.
DeleteWell said...Women are also better at cheating than men. Hell yea the numbers are a hell of a lot closer!
DeleteSo very true... the cunningness of females are much slicker... because so men don't want to believe their significant other will creep... a sad mistake in that thinking... and if we as men would be more honest about what they want... then u run the risk of her saying no I'm not doing that... then what?
DeleteThose stats will never be accurate because the smarter women who cheat guard that secret like nuclear launch codes.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it was the way the poll was phrased as well, many women cheat 4 reasons other than sex. They may want affection or attention or a number of nonsexual needs met, while most, NOTE I SAID MOST, men just want some good sex on a regular basis
ReplyDeleteThe lies could be worse than cheating. Cheating you can get over, but lies make you wonder what else they are holding back. Wife and I dont lie to each other about anything. Women definitely cheat other than just the opportunity arises.
ReplyDeleteI think those numbers are definitely exaggerated. I'm not really convinced women don't cheat more. There are common misconceptions that women are smarter at cheating or will die with the secret. Both which I think is false. In my past I've cheated on plenty as have plenty guys I know and never got caught. I also think that many cheat because they're lacking something at home. Sure you have your dogs. But every dog needs a what? I don't have the numbers but I'm sure a large number of men and women both don't wake up with the objective of creeping.
ReplyDeleteI read a quote in a magazine once that said "you can say anything you want with statistics".
Women cheat for emotional reasons. Men only cheat on days that end in "y".
ReplyDeleteNot saying men can't be master cheaters. Many are. But in my experience and observation, many men are more apt to go for spur of the moment sex with no cover plan, and therefore get busted more often.
ReplyDeleteAlso in my experience and observation, women are more likely to look for signs of infidelity and jump on it, so they're more likely to catch a man than vice versa. Put it to the test: Call your woman a pet name you've never called her before and watch what happens.
You're trying to end some relationships today... lol
DeleteFor real
DeleteA woman will take cheating to the grave with her. That's like trying to get an honest answer out of her when you ask how many dudes she's been with.
ReplyDeleteIf 14% of women cheated, the number of children who don't know who their real dad is would be a lot lower and there would be a lot less of those children out there.
ReplyDeleteThat's one statistic that's a real lie.
Your question "is a lifetime of monogamy to heavy a burden on anyone including WOMEN"???
ReplyDeleteImo, its all about values and choices...when i was under 35 i gave in to peer pressure and often went from one short relationship to another...i was clueless about MY values and did what i thought others approved of...
Once i began to think for myself, and understand the value of living with truth and purpose...i changed...now, its about choices and responsibility...i enjoy being monogamous cause it is filling my life with lots of important things...sex...(freaky sex), companionship, energy, fun and more...
So...no...monogamy is not a burden...its a bonus!!
I'm with you on that eye opening revelation... I too have come to that conclusion... I just wish it had been sooner than later... when I turned 40, a long line of breaking hearts... and re-starting over... but then arguments occur and that cheating eye and head wants to pop his head out of the confusion... and then the choice to cheat looks appealing again... but in the long run u lose what you had... because you thought the grass was greener... but you realize it's not from past events... so I choose to stay loyal and monogamous
DeleteIs a lifetime of monogamy too heavy a burden -- YES! To death do you part is a LONG time!
ReplyDeleteNo wife, no kids, no girlfriend = Happiness.
ReplyDeleteThis is how I have it, and this is how I want it, and this is how I will keep it until I die, alone. Sometimes mutual friends can be a pain in the ass, so I limit the amount of people I have in my life as mutual friends.
People tend to let others actions dictate their own. Most women don't want to cheat they are just messed up in the head from bad relationships and men well they are just stupid (sorry but it's true). Love is a gift and a lot of good can come from it when you look at it that way. Sex is a hell of a drug and most of the time it is use in poor taste. As for me I would rather get high on my on supply and not experiment outside of that.
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