WHY can't women get along you ask?
NO clue! But I have heard numerous reasons as to why; such as jealousy, insecurity, intimidated by those she feel are more attractive than her, competition, low or even elevated self esteem and on and on..... This is why you hear so many females say "I get along better with men than I do women." or "Women are too much drama to deal with." Women can't ESPECIALLY get along in the workplace . I know this from experience! I personally witnessed this catty foolishness at my job which led to ended friendships and terminations. I swear gossip has the power to take down NATIONS!
I don't think anyone has a real and definite answer as to why women don't get along with each other. If they did I'm sure someone would've wrote a book about it and made millions.
There supposedly is an epidemic of bullying amongst kids these days but have you ever seen a clique of women at your job or school set their sights on another women? Unlike a pack of wolves who would rip their prey to shreds within seconds, women take their time to verbally and emotionally destroy each other. I'm not saying men don't have bitchy moments in the workplace but women are way more methodical and calculated. Like I said, I witnessed this on more than one occasion and apparently its more prevalent in the workplace according to an article in the New York Times titled Backlash: Women Bullying Women at Work. The statistics support the fact that 40% of all workplace bullies are women and that women bully other women 70% of the time! COME ON LADIES! REALLY? LOL!
I guess this is just one of those things in life that will always be. Like we all know that after spring comes summer, so why not just accept the fact that women just CAN'T GET ALONG.
You hit it right on the nose. Women can't get along with other women due to their own insecurities,envy and jealousy (just to name a few). Question is when did all this get started and why? It's sad we can't even work together without having numerous conflicts. Heaven forbid I give another woman a compliment! This will be an on going cycle smh.
ReplyDeleteCan't we all just get along?? :-)
DeleteSure. In a perfect world lol
DeleteAlways be leery of a woman who states that she doesn't "have female friends because they are too catty." It is HEALTHY and important to have sister girls you can rely on. Friendships cultivate your growth and to be quite frank, while I appreciate my male friendships, they don't compare to the ones shared with my lovelies. Unfortunately, many women view other women as competition. Rather than uplift each other, many are prone to the "crab in a barrel" thought process. While a majority of women move this way, I won't cosign that ALL women move this way.... I work with majority of women and have had my share of times where they feel the need to "test" my "street cred." As a supervisor, I know I have the ability to make positive changes, rather than feed into it, I remind myself of the place in which their attitude stems from and make attempts to redirect the convo. It has worked and the same applies to those surrounding me.... Paying a woman a compliment can be problematic sometimes but I don't own her issue, I just recognize the fact that I liked her shoes and thought she should know! lol! It is what it is, stay true to you despite their craziness!
ReplyDeleteYeah. I dont really get it bc I've never been one of those women. I get along great with other women and work in a all female environment. Like classy and sassy said....be leery of women who say they don't have female friends and they prefer to kick it with men. They usually are the center of the drama. #notmystyle
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ReplyDeleteWell just this week-end... the comment was made by my girl,"A bitch being a bitch being a bitch being a bitch","A Bitch will be a bitch." They sending texts back and forth, talking shit about one another...ages one 47 year old choir director, 20 year old choir member, and 25 year old music director. All because of some actions done in the bedroom that spilled on and out into the church house. The choir director mad at the music director for screwwing a choir member... and that happening at and in the church... and then come to find out... the two girls involved are cousins...WOW! what do you think... of course the workplace is the next arena for the drama... It amazes me, but I hear it all the time... from females, I get along better with males... than females. The million dollar solution... I wish I knew it, but I think it's because of the attitude and their mouth, most of them got something negative to say about another... how they look... what they wearing... and who they screwwing... There is no unity, no sticking together, the verbal abuse... pure cattiness... pure cat fighting... If I knew the answer to why they act like that... Jay you right I would be rich... money coming out my a$$. If I knew... or had a clue!!! Wordfrommypen
ReplyDeleteI agree that women in general are very catty towards one another...I also believe that behind every catty female there is a Bitch ass male stirring up the pot and instigating some of the drama.*Excuse the French* I am honestly disgusted by women that act like they are in a serious competition that has no prize. Sizing up females, comparing each others beauty and booty. UUgghhh Grow up already!! Great topic Jay! :)
ReplyDeleteGreat topic! What is boils down to, is comparisons are useless and only create misery. So everyone - male or female - forget comparing yourself to anyone else and you be you. That's what I try to come back to over and over, whether dealing with other females or males (or inanimate objects, lol). I like what Jenna Marbles has to say on this topic. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PfW8deSlsiA
ReplyDeleteI believe there are so many variables as to why women can't get along ...most of the drama stems from as you stated...low self worth and esteem,jealously, strife, competition..which all manifest out of fear... I had to personally remove myself from being around these type of women at one point in my life ..many of whom I thought were friends .....I can't do all the jealously and haters..however..some women will always be bitter and have issues especially when you don't know who you are as a women . I love to see a women who knows her ...purpose, value and her worth .... That's why I feel for all these young women who are lost and don't know the power they behold as a women ....many of which only see themselves as females and not a women...cause there is a deference as we all know !
ReplyDeleteOk forgive me for saying this but women will be women, this will never change for example take a look at these TV shows today, basketball wives, love and hip hop and all the all the real housewives of wherever. Cattiness, jealousy, Envy, betrayal etc. They way we are with one another is ridiculous, I have experience this type of foolishness all my teen and adult life. I'm convinced some women won't change this is why I only surround myself with positive, secure and respectful women to avoid the mess.
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DeleteWomen can get along if the "want" too and its their choice. I have a lot of women in my life and they are different ages, races, religions and we have no problems getting along unless I'm given a valid reason not to get a long with them and even at that point I will show them respect and stay away from them or as my mother would say "feed with a long handled spoon". There are many factors that contribute to women not getting along, being petty, jealousy, gossiping, insecurities or just down right being rude or hateful and I have zero tolerance for those types of women.
ReplyDeleteI love your article lady and I would love to share it on my page. This is one that definitely needs to be read! I have had the same thoughts over the years and ask myself WHY? Good blogging here!
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